Now Don't Be Hatin' on Kate

I know, I know. Everyone is probably SICK TO DEATH of Jon & Kate, but I happen to like, and feel for Kate. As one of my friends put it best, "Just because she is a strong woman, she gets labeled a witch." Anyone who ever watched the show saw that Jon was a big baby when it came to daddy duty, job duty, house duty, etc. He would help some, I do not mean to imply he did nothing, but lets just say he didn't hurt himself, and he caused more strife for Kate than he helped her, in my opinion. He was her 9th child, as a lot of husbands are! LOL Yeah, you had 6 kids unexpectedly at one time. Okay. So did Kate. Sometimes things happen you weren't expecting. Man up. I know, easy for me to say, but STILL. Those are his kids he supposedly cares so much for.

Monday's episode went like this: (Quoting Yahoo here, by the way.)

They talked in vague terms for a while. This quote from Kate is a perfect example: "It doesn't matter where Jon and I are in our relationship, my kids still matter the most to me. If I have to put on a happy face to have a picnic with them and put all those issues aside, I do. Do I always feel jovial and happy and wonderful? No. Am I thrilled with how things have turned out? No. Did I ever think I would be in this position? Absolutely not."

Okay, what is so terrible about that? I know she has had her moments, but I see so much of myself in Kate. In all that crazy mess of kids, she needed to find some sort of order, and I believe she tried her best for her family. Jon didn't step up to the plate, so she had to. Yes, she likes to be in control, but lets face it, SOMEONE had to be, ya know? Good thing she could handle it.

Jon started to open up about the added frustration of having the paparazzi hound their every move. He thinks the situation is ridiculous. "It's been so stressful. Thank god we have the show so we can tell what we want to tell, but people just tell what they want to tell anyway." The producers prodded for him to clear the air about the tabloid rumors, but he never really did. Instead he talked more about how he doesn't hate Kate but admitted that he let her take charge too much and now at 32, he's finally decided to stand up for himself. "I just let her rule the roost and do whatever she wanted to do," he explained. "Now I've finally stood up on my own two feet, and I'm proud of myself."

Okay, the tabloids is HIS fault for his promiscuous behavior with the teacher. And he DID NOT clear up anything on the show, so what a stupid statement. And if he calls leaving his family at the 'ripe old age of 32' "standing up for himself," I have news for him. It is called tucking tail and running. And as I mentioned earlier, if Kate hadn't took control, who would have? I mean, the man still lived with his mother and did not have even a half way decent job when he met Kate, who was a RN. Sheesh. I realize that a 22-23 year old guy, which would have been about what he was at the time, is not the most mature man on the planet, but no matter how much Kate "nagged him" as he said once on the show about becoming pregnant, he DID NOT HAVE to go along with it. And from the 8 sweet little dark haired, dark skin faces that stare back at us, I think he did.

Jon - who has been eyeing apartments in New York City - said he doesn't know if he'll remain on the show, as he could get a new job. "I'm only 32 years old," he said. "I don't know what's going to happen." He also said he is "excited" about starting a new chapter in his life.

EXCITED?!?!?! About leaving his family who he claims to have the best interest at heart? Whatever, Jon. Just move away and fade into oblivion. Don't pop up with you little girlfriends while having your mid life crisis out there and pretend to be "Daddy." I believe Jon and Kate were doomed, tv show or not. The show just sped up the process. At least they will have money for the kids. Which, PARENTS are more important, don't get me wrong, but like I said, they never would have made it anyway. He is a more weak natured person with resentment, and she is strong willed and feels need to be in control, which I relate too. So it is easy for me to say I understand where she is. If she is anything like me, she is freaking out because this was not all supposed to happen. I have OCD, and from what I have saw of Kate, I believe she has it too, whether it be mild to severe, I do not know. She feels "safe" if she is in control. Don't judge too harshly if you haven't been there.

Then came this quote from the reporter:

For whatever personal feelings I have about Kate, she looked genuinely miserable about the fact that she'd have to be separated from the kids for any given amount of time. Maybe because she has no life other than them, or more because she's concerned about not being able to control what Jon does with them or what they eat without her around. Either way, she looked unhappy about that, and seemed sad about the fact that the kids would be the product of a failed marriage, and another statistic.

Okay, make up your mind. Is Kate a terrible mother who leaves her kids with nanny's and body guards all the time, or does she have no life beyond her kids? And I don't blame her, I wouldn't want to leave my kids with Jon either! Shoot, we worry about what Dylan eats, where he goes, what he does when he is with his dad. Isn't that called NORMAL?

Just on Monday's show, here is a PRIME example of what an irresponsible parent Jon can be:

Jon cleared land deep in the woods - an area he thought would be safe because the paparazzi wouldn't be able to photograph the kids. Kate didn't object initially, but when she saw where the houses would be located, she got upset.

Okay, away from paparazzi, I understand, but deep in the woods where NO ONE, not even Kate, can see them? HELLO?!?! He threw a big whiny fit when she suggested they be closer to the house where she could actually SEE them, but decided maybe she was right after all when the men helping install the playhouses sided with Kate on the safety issue. When PEOPLE INSTALLING PLAY EQUIPMENT needs to tell you what is safe, what does that tell you?

Production has been halted on Jon & Kate Plus 8 following the Gosselins' Monday revelation they're splitting up, the network has announced.TLC says next Monday's episode will feature a clip package with some new footage, but the next all-new episode won't air until August 3, the Los Angeles Times reports. The Times says the decision came from the network -- not the family.

Good. I think they need a break. But I see no problem if they choose to continue with the show. I don't believe it is what messed everything up, though I do not think it helped it, just sped up the inevitable outcome. No one is hatin' on the Duggars for putting their kids lives on display. They just are a (freakishly) happy couple who are all peaches and cream and have everything seemingly together. They still put their kids lives on display, so what is the difference? None to me. Don't get me wrong, I have NOTHING against the Duggars (except their names. That REALLY gets on my nerves! At least the girls names could have started with an "M" ya know!) I believe they are a good family, but honestly the dad creeps me out kinda! And how could one woman be that calm, I will never know! I do not believe she is a 'fake' or whatever. She just has peace like I will never have on this earth! lol

Well, I promise this will be my one and only Jon and Kate Debate. You know, unless I am overbearing and domineering and change my mind! Which I may do, you never know!