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This one is a story that I hope no one finds offensive, but if you knew the little fella involved and our family's weird sense of humor, this is priceless. Warning, if you have just had a death in the family, perhaps you should move on to something else. Ahem. LOL.
You all now Cullen, right? (I tried to find his picture on my computer and the blog, but couldn't find the one I had in mind, so, sorry! lol)
Well, he is the King of Drama. Seriously. There is nothing that he won't think of. Or say. Or do.
This was about 3 years ago. We had a death in our church, a life long member who developed a brain tumor and took his life way before anyone expected. He and his wife had 2 children, one who had just graduated high school, and one just entering. This man had touched several peoples lives, Cullen's included.
But ya just gotta know Cullen.
I was staying with Cullen and his family at the time, and after this funeral of this man we had to leave to go on a trip concerning Austin, Cullen's big brother, so we did not get to go to the grave side service. The next weekend, which was about 4 days after the burial, I went to Wally World and had only Cullen with me. I was going past the cemetery where the man was buried, and Cullen yelled, "GO BACK! GO BACK! I wanna see T's grave!"
Well, I did a u turn at a church right up the road and headed back to the cemetery. (I knew Cullen's mom would not care for him stopping by to pay his respects. Cullen had lost an aunt, and a few older relatives, and was just not too disturbed by death, if you know what I mean. Not to sound that he was calloused, but I just want to make sure everyone understands that I knew I wasn't putting the child through a traumatizing situation.) I thought I knew where T was buried, and I headed that way. Well, I circled the cemetery about 4 times, and could not find ONE, SINGLE fresh grave. There just wasn't one where I thought he was buried. Cullen was beginning to get impatient, and wanted to get and and search for the grave himself, so I pulled over in the general location of T's grave and in search we went. It was one of these kinds of cemeteries, pictured below, not an individual family cemetery.
Well, not 4 steps out of the car, I saw a fresh grave that just wasn't visible from the car. "This way, Cullen." He followed me, and we had a brief moment of silence.
"I would like to say a few words," Cullen said in his most serious voice.
"Sure, sweetheart, I think that would be lovely."
Well, Cullen being a child of tradition and respect knew that you needed flowers or some type of token if this was to be done properly, so he reached over at the grave next to T's, and STOLE THE FLOWERS OFF THE TOMBSTONE and began his speech.
True, the flowers were dingy and looked like they had been there for quite some time, but I had to stifle some giggles at our "grave robbing."
Then came the speech.
"Dear Lord," with his 'oh-so-Cullen' voice, "we want to thank you for the service Brother T provided for us while he was here on this Earth. I know my mom said he used to couldn't sing good, but you finally blessed him with a gift because he wouldn't give up until you FINALLY made him able to sing good and I even liked his singing very much."
A look up to me for encouragement.
A nod to him to continue, with glazed over eyes as not to give away my burst of laughter right below the surface.
Cullen continued the rest of the speech dircted to T himself. "Sometimes you picked on me, but I think you really liked me even though you couldn't tell it. And I am sorry that you went bald so young and used to wear a wig but gave it up and just went bald and didn't have hair. I remember when you got me in trouble at church for tearing up the wire on the microphone. And I am sorry R used to pick on you when you were young and in school, and he is too.... "
And Cullen proceeded to name off every single memory he could think of involving T. Which was a lot of memories cause the child is like an elephant. From a distance, it looked like we were having a great, touching moment. Now, don't get me wrong. Cullen was serious as a heart attack, and T himself would have LOVED, LOVED, LOVED his eulogy from Cullen, but it was just absolutely cracking me up.
Here we stand, with stolen flowers, going over T's life history from Cullen's point of view, a few people milling about at different graves (it was a semi-large cemetery for our neck of the woods) and we have been there for about 20 minutes. Finally, Cullen looked up at me with a look of bereavement and said, "I think I am ready to go now."
"Okay, sweetheart, lets get back in the car."
So he placed the stolen flowers on the grave and with a dramatic sigh, he headed back to my car. We went on to Wally World and Cullen was fine as a fiddle. I told his mom about it and we kind of giggled and talked about how we were glad Cullen got to do that and how cracked up T would be if he could look down and see all that had happened that day.
WEEEEEEEEEEEEELL, a few months later, I went with my mom to the cemetery to visit T's grave and take a flower arrangement (not stolen, by the way) and just see the grave. We turn into the cemetery, and my mom turns right, not left, and heads down to a totally different part of the cemetery than which Cullen and I held our little memorial service.
"You're going the wrong way, Mom," I quickly corrected her. "It is by that statue over there."
"No it isn't."
"Yes it is."
"No it isn't. I came to the burial and saw where they put him. I KNOW it is over here."
"Whatever, Mom," I say, thinking I am going to get to prove my senile mother wrong.
Well, we pull up to a parking spot, and sure enough, there is T's beautiful new tombstone, with flowers and such all around it.
"This can't be," I declare. "I looked EVERYWHERE and there was only ONE new grave when I brought Cullen here and it was over there." (The fresh grave, months earlier, had no marker of any kind, by the way. Obviously not the tombstone so soon, but not even one of those little markers they usually put, but it really was the only new grave I found so I thought I had found the correct one.)
But there was T's name, dates of birth and death all staring me in the face. I told mom the story of how Cullen and I had a grave side memorial (with STOLEN flowers) at the WRONG GRAVE and told her how Cullen told every memory he ever had about T.
We laughed and laughed and laughed. Anyone that saw us probably thought we were just loony, or crazy with grief, or God knows what.
You just had to know T, and Cullen, and know that there couldn't be a more fitting way for Cullen to have a memorial for T than at a wrong grave with stolen flowers.
It was fitting to a "T."